WHAT IS EMOTIONAL MATURITY? HOW CAN I MASTER THIS?

 

Ramayana is a brilliant epic. One of the lessons we learn from it is, “In the sway of emotions, intelligence does not work.” Every character takes a decision in a momentary impulse, in an emotional state. It begins with Manthara poisoning the mind of Kaikeyi, to her asking for three boons from Dasaratha, to him banishing Rama to the forest, to Lakshmana and Sita deciding to go with Rama to the forest, to Soorpanaka complaining to her brother, to Ravana abducting Sita and finally dying in the hands of Rama.

We invariably take decisions when we are emotional, and that could sometimes become fatal. Hence, we should refrain from taking any decision when we are emotional. Leadership is all about Emotional maturity.  A successful marriage is all about Emotional maturity. Parenting is all about Emotional maturity. Maintaining relationship is all about Emotional maturity. Lasting friendship is all about Emotional maturity.  Being an inspiring teacher is all about Emotional maturity.

I was very immature when I was young. I was affected by how the world treated me. It used to overwhelm me.  I used to react, get upset and wallow in self-pity. With time I realized that nobody cares for your feelings. That was when maturity dawned on me and I decided not to react, but respond to the world. We cannot change the world, but we can change our outlook towards the world. Today I have liberated myself from the clutches of the world. I feel so much at peace. I choose my responses now. It is a beautiful state to be in when you become the master of your emotions. But I must tell you that it comes only with awareness. Sitting in Silence every day gives rise to your inner voice, and this inner voice creates awareness in you.

Buddha says,” Anger is like grasping a hot charcoal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned,”

Emotional maturity is, expressing your emotions with restraint. How do we develop Emotional maturity? Everything is easier said than done. The restraint that we need to develop is immense and it can happen only over a period of time.

1.     Identify the trigger.

2.     Watch your emotions & feelings

3.     Be a witness to your own thought process

4.     Plan your response without being impulsive.

5.     Avoid taking permanent decisions on temporary issues

Man is an emotional being. Emotions are the drivers of our behavior. Positive emotions bring the best out of us. Life would be so beautiful if we are in control of our emotions. Become the architect of your life by becoming the Master of your emotions.

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