Wednesday, October 12, 2022

THE FRAGILE ADOLESCENT YEARS

                                


 “We must not allow other people’s limited perceptions to define us.”

 Would you believe if I said that, what I am today, bears no semblance to my past? Yes, I was diffident, unsure about myself, had no great achievements to my credit, had a low self-image, was constantly compared with others, I was repeatedly told how lousy I looked. Surprised?  But today, my confidence defines me. How did I achieve this transformation? Well, one small victory led to many more. That was the beginning. It made me believe in myself. In course of time I realised that beauty was only skin deep. I began working on my inner beauty, which is eternal. I also started excelling in my studies. All this created confidence in me. I discovered the area of my strength and worked on it.

You must understand that adolescence is the most vulnerable phase in one’s life. Most of them do not get their life right when they don’t get their teenage right. This is the age when you crave for identity. You seek the attention of the world. You want to feel like a hero. You will mindlessly do anything to get attention. Right or wrong is not the question. What matters is, you wish to be noticed. So, you tend to develop herd mentality and you are ready to do anything that your gang of friends do. They will appreciate you for everything. They will accept you even if you are a failure and it makes you feel good.

Do you know that all habits are formed very early in life? Your habits can either create you or destroy you. You will not hesitate to pick up a cigarette, or consume alcohol, or do drugs, in the company of your friends. What you don’t realise is that, adolescence is a vulnerable period in your life. The choices that you make will have its impact on your adult life. Friends have a great influence on you than your parents. So, surround yourself with friends who will lift you up in life and not pull you down. This is the phase when you tend to get into relationships of infatuation as your body goes through physical & hormonal changes. You will feel like a man or a woman. But you are not old enough to know life. That is where the problem lies.

Developing a strong will power alone will help you to make the right choices in life. The power of the man is the power of his mind.  How do we achieve this? We can start with a simple practise. Decide to wake up early every day. You fix the time and check if you are able to wake up at the time decided by you. Tick every day when you wake up on time.  When you achieve it, you will start believing in yourself. Success in one aspect of life will lead to many more. This will be the beginning of a disciplined and glorious life that you will start living life, based on right and wrong and not by pain and pleasure.  


“The greatest pride is to grow in your own eyes. Live….to look up to yourself.” 


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