“Maturity is a high price to pay for growing up.”
When I was in college, I received an
award for the best poem for the year in the college magazine. It was titled,
“Life.” The poem was written as a consequence to some disappointment I
experienced. I was so upset that I poured it out in the form of a poem. It
caught the attention of the English department, and thus my poem was chosen.
Many of my friends told me that I was being pessimistic, but I argued.
When I gained maturity I was able to
understand how much I hurt myself by dwelling on the negative aspects of life. I
was so immature that I used to get upset with people who wronged me or behaved
unreasonably with me, especially elders in the family. There was so much
negativity in me as others’ behavior towards me affected me. My relationship
with close relatives was topsy-turvy. This is where I was as a youngster.
It required great effort on my part
to bring about a paradigm shift in my outlook. Not to get disturbed by the
behavior of people around me. I learnt that acceptance will, to a large extent,
help me to annihilate or mitigate my ill-feelings towards people. I turned my
expectations towards me and not towards the world. That made all the difference
and I started experiencing peace in life. It is so liberating when we are able
to accept people and move on. The mantra that I hold on to dearly, which
transformed my life is;
“Accept the unchangeable
Change the changeable
Remove yourself from the unacceptable.”
If there is something that I cannot
change, it becomes my area of concern. It is better not to dwell on your area
of concern, rather focus on your area of influence. A lot of our frustrations
are because we are not able to accept so many things in life. We cannot
influence the behavior of other people. It is better not to get affected by it.
Nobody in the world cares for our feelings. So, it is better to remove
ourselves from the unacceptable. Do not hand over the keys of your happiness to
the world. Decide to be happy. You are the most important person in your life.
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