Wednesday, May 10, 2023

ARE YOU STRESSED?

 

                                     

 When I was new to my profession I was actually grappling with the situation. I was not able to achieve a work life balance. My son was very young. I wanted to be with him, but I had executed the choice to take up the responsibility of running the school. Trying to manage home and work was very tough.  Whenever I got worked up, I used to tell my husband, “You don’t know how stressed I am.” I used to use the word, “stress” generously. The more and more I used it, the more and more stressed I became. I was caught in a vicious cycle. I will come to the story later as to how I could overcome this in life.

 

But today, this is a word very liberally used by youngsters. A class nine student came up to me, when I was walking around during the break, and told me how stressed she was. Studies is stress, waking up early is stress, not being allowed to use the mobile is stress, avoiding junk food is stress, being told to avoid wrong company is stress, being corrected for wrong behaviour is stress, and the list goes on.  For the adults, work is stress, relationships are stressful, a colleague getting a promotion is stressful, household work is stressful.  It may sound silly to us, but for them, it is real. Even working professionals indulge in vices because they are stressed. They justify their actions. Drinking, smoking, vaping, misuse of drugs, are all common amongst youngsters. They don’t realise that it is due to poor mental health. These will become addictions without their knowledge and coming out of this habit may sometimes be impossible.

 

“Most problems come from not wanting to see things as they are.”- mahatria Ra

 

If we can change our perspective, we can change the way we feel. Our actions are a manifestation of our thoughts and feelings. If we change our thoughts, we can change our actions. A student, instead of seeing studies as a burden, should visualise what he can eventually achieve in life, if he gives undivided attention to studies. He should see it as an opportunity to discover his potential, to achieve incredible growth, to improve the quality of his life, to grow materialistically, to make it big in life. If a teacher sees her work as a burden, then she will fill her space with her vibrations, which will be negative. Work is worship. A teacher has to see a school as not only a temple of learning, but also as a temple of transformation. She must love her students first, then she will automatically love what she is doing.  If a doctor, instead of getting stressed by repeatedly seeing sick patients and negativity around him every day, can go to the clinic or hospital thinking, “How many more patients can I cure today?” Then he will look forward to his day and achieve gratification in being a blessing in the lives of his patients. Every youth and adult, trying to escape the monotony of life, by taking refuge in alcohol, drugs, cigarettes, etc, is absolutely insane.

 

“You are all the time creating the script.

You draw what you think into your own life.

Life outside is a manifestation of how you think,

And that’s the truth.”- mahatria Ra

 

Our profession is our choice. We should happily work and not miserably work. If we are passionate about our work, we will enjoy it. My spiritual connection helped me to look at everything in the right perspective. We get stressed when our circle of concern expands and our circle of influence shrinks. What is, is. Certain things around us is not in our control. I can only influence my own thinking and my own actions, and thereby my own life. It is not the experiences that I go through in life, but the way I respond to these experiences that makes the difference. Choose your responses. I started working on my attitude and outlook. I was told that the goal of every goal is peace. That I should not hand over the keys of my happiness to the world, which will make me dance to their tunes. Today, I am the master of my life. The world does not hold my happiness to ransom. Since I love my students, I love the work I am doing. I learnt to strike a work life balance by expanding my circle of influence. I live a beautiful life. The word, “stress” has fled from my vocabulary. “Love you zindagi,” is now my most favourite song! Come, lets sing in chorus!!!

 

#Thoughtfulthursdays #nsn #nsnschool #mentoring #parenting

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