My Learnings…My Transformations

THE THREE KEY RELATIONSHIPS:

No matter what we achieve or where we reach in life, our happiness and peace depend on whether we get certain fundamentals right. Most importantly, whether we get the three relationships in our life right. My relationship with myself (intra- relationship), with others (inter-relationship) and with the divine (transcendental-relationship).

INTRAPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP:

 I cannot boast about a balanced childhood. I had my own areas of weaknesses and limitations. Especially my self-image, which was at its lowest ebb. My spiritual journey brought many corrections in me, one at a time. A lot of inner cleansing began to happen, and I was proud of the person that emerged from within. Getting my thoughts and actions right through years of practice, helped me to feel happy about the person I became. When you grow in your own eyes, you are able to look up to yourself. This instantly builds your self-image.

I learnt to drop guilt by forgiving myself. I stopped defining myself by my looks, as there was a huge scope for me to become a beautiful person, inside out. The focus shifted to that. I no more compared myself with anyone, as I began to feel complete unto myself. Thus, there was a huge shift in my relationship with myself, as I began accepting myself.

When you offer yourself to a higher intelligence to work on you, you can be sure that nothing but the best will come out of it. This has tremendously improved the quality of my life in such a way that life has become so beautiful.

INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP:

The three powerful mantras which I learnt, a practical approach to navigating life’s challenges;

“Accept the unchangeable

Change the changeable

Remove yourself from the unacceptable” -mahatria

Accept the unchangeable:

This became the very basis of my relationship with the world. I was quite rigid in my relationships as I was unable to accept people who wronged me, and so I sometimes lost my peace. According to this mantra, one needs to accept certain situations or actions of people that are not in one’s area of influence, for one’s own peace. Resisting it could only cause suffering in us. Acceptance is the key to your peace and the proof of your maturity.  

“How others behave

Is not in my control.

How I choose to respond

To their behavior

Is in my control.” -mahatria

Change the changeable:

I attempted making positive changes wherever I had control, and thereby worked on improving relationships. Peace prevailed as there were no agitations in the mind.

Remove yourself from the unacceptable:

Whenever there are situations or relationships that are toxic or harmful, if it is unacceptable to you, it is better to remove yourself with grace from such a situation or relationship. I did just that. This, I think, is a practical approach to navigating life’s challenges.

TRANSCENDENTAL RELATIONSHIP:

I have been a believer of God from childhood. A quality I imbibed from my mother. But God was always a form, an altar, an idol, in the sanctum sanctorum, to whom I prayed from far. I was God-fearing.

With my initiation into spirituality, very soon I realized that God is formless. He is a divine presence in my life. He is not outside of me, but within me. That, when I pray to Him, I am communicating to Him, and when I am in silence, I am in communion with Him.

That my work could be a prayer unto Him. When I take care of His creations, He will take care of me. This understanding created a major shift in my perspective about God.

Are you struggling in any of these relationships? Try these mantras and you will experience the best of times in life!

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