BOYS DON’T CRY, GIRLS SHOULDN’T LAUGH

 

Our behaviour is sometimes conditioned by society. There are certain qualities attributed to boys and some qualities are said to be girlish. Today we have come very far from these narrow- minded beliefs and liberated ourselves to believe in equality of genders, not confining or classifying any of the behaviour as pertaining to boys or girls. When girls are being educated and are allowed to work, there can be no such restrictions or biases. We want both, boys and girls to be responsible individuals.

Being manly should not come in the way of stifling their feelings. Men too can express their emotions. In fact, a man who expresses his tears shows that he is human. But from childhood boys are told that they are sissy when they cry. Bottled up emotions can take a toll on them. Whoever said that boys don’t cry have not understood the value of bringing out the humane qualities in them. Boys should not be ashamed to cry out of joy, happiness, love, gratitude, sorrow, and sometimes for no particular reason. Only such a man will be able to understand the tears of the women in his life.

Boys should be able to express their emotions without any inhibitions. Pent up feelings bring out a lot of negativity. There will be situations in which they can show their strength. Crying out should not be seen as a weakness. We see men crying out of joy when they see their new born baby. There is a beauty in seeing that. But crying itself should not be used as a weapon. Crying should be for the right reasons. Else it will become your weakness.

There are so many ways in which a girl can express her delight. Laughter is her prerogative. There is nothing wrong in a girl laughing loudly. In many families, girls are rebuked when they laugh. They are told to behave themselves.  How else do you convey your happiness? It is a positive emotion and should be encouraged. There should be no restrictions whatsoever. The household should reverberate with laughter. Girls are not any less in any way. There is no gender in emotions, as much as there is no gender in the qualities and values that we have to imbibe.

Gone are the days when girls were told that they should not be heard, that they were expected to be meek and obedient. Today girls enjoy a lot of freedom. But they should ensure that they handle their freedom with responsibility. They should bring dignity, grace and charm into their personality and win the respect of one and all.

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