The mother sank into the sofa with a heavy heart, tears
blinding her eyes. She just could not believe her ears. In one sentence he had
nullified all that she had done for him over the years. She was bleeding
within. Her deep love for her son was very casually dismissed by him. More than
the pain she went through to bring him up, his mockery and sarcasm pierced her
heart like a dagger, and the pain was unbearable. The depth of a mother’s love
was not understood. Ego showed its ugly
head and caused unbearable agony to the woman, who refused to see life beyond
her son.
Ego sometimes comes like a hurricane and displaces all the
goodness within us. We temporarily forget who we are and the worst in us dances
in front of our own eyes, with barely any control. When we come out of it, we
sometimes regret our actions. Ego controls us in certain moments. Should we not
be in control of our thoughts and actions? When ego comes everything else goes.
When the ego within wins, we as a person, lose.
Adolescent children are sometimes a huge challenge to the
parents. The struggle to maintain a cordial relationship has been an ongoing
one, generation after generation. What is the formula that works? Nobody knows,
because there isn’t one solution for this. For each his own. But one thing is very clear, when there are
hormonal changes in children, they get ego involved with parents. It is not
intentional though. It is sometimes beyond them. There is so much of resentment
in the relationship. Can we just hold on?
Not reacting would be the best response. Just bathe them in your love.
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“To love and to be loved is the most purifying of all human
experiences.” When love is such a positive and powerful emotion that all of us
could experience, why would we choose anything that would take away that love
from a beautiful relationship? Ego always seeks to divide and separate. Only
love unites. Annihilation of ego gives birth to love. Ego can sabotage the most
beautiful relationship. Love is the only way a relationship can be maintained.
To fill our heart with love, or to fill our mind with ego, is a choice we have
to execute.
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