LOVE VERSUS INFATUATION

                                        

The girl was standing in the Principal’s room, a little nervous, fidgeting with her hands, knowing fully well why she was summoned. Her mind was racing like a jet, planning what to tell, if questioned about her actions. For her, this was the first experience, but, for the Principal, this has been a part of her profession over the years.  Fortunately for the student, she was studying in a school that did not believe in either branding students, or labeling them. The Principal gently waived her hand, asking her to sit. She was asked to explain herself. The girl reluctantly told her what had happened. She nervously waited for the Principal’s reaction. After listening to her fully, the Principal, with the warmth of a mother in her voice, told her that, what she felt for her classmate was just infatuation. It was part of her growing up phase, to feel the rush of adrenaline while interacting with the opposite sex. Many of us go through this.

 Infatuation has no reasoning. It is just a physical attraction and nothing more. There is no depth in the relationship and fades away soon, unlike love, which grows over the years, and withstands the test of time. She said that she should not get drawn into it. The girl did not look convinced. She had a look that conveyed her conviction in her decision. The Principal continued. She said, teenage was the most crucial period in one’s life. Either it can create you or destroy you, depending on the direction of your life. A boy will feel like a man and a girl will feel like a woman, because of the physical changes, but you are not man enough or woman enough. But you think you are old enough. At this age you don’t have the maturity to make life defining decisions. So long as you are dependent on your parents for your needs, you must understand that you are not old enough.

Your choices will keep changing over the years, as you go from school to college, to work place. What you feel now may not be the same after a few years. Whereas, in love, the feeling grows more intense with the passage of time. So, you should not get carried away by your emotions during your adolescent years. You should rather distract yourself by being busy in a sport or a hobby. She concluded by saying, “Everything has a time and season my child. Let go of your past. A glorious future is awaiting you!” 

 

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