CELEBRATING MOTHERHOOD

 

As I sat amidst the other parents, on a pleasant evening, in the school auditorium, waiting excitedly to see my son receive the Scholar cum Sports Person Award in class XII, my mind went back to his growing up years. It took what it took to help him reach where he reached. Everything began fifteen years back, when he first entered the school as a toddler, all of three years. What did I have to give up to help him go up? I had decided that my child would be my priority. Nothing else was important to me. Neither socializing, nor watching the television, nor attending functions, nor shopping. Nothing mattered to me. All that I could see was my son’s image, looming large in front of my eyes. As a working woman it was initially very difficult for me, but slowly I achieved a work- life balance and things went on more smoothly. It was sheer joy being with my son. I never suffered from FOMO (Fear of Missing Out).

“I will go into every relationship, looking at what I can give, and not what I can receive.”

Motherhood revealed to me my strengths that I never knew existed in me. I didn’t know that I was capable of loving another person unconditionally as all my life I waited to be loved. Attending to the needs of my son, I became a selfless person. I was willing to put the other ahead of me. Patience and tolerance became a part of my nature. I became capable of undivided attention and focus. I learnt to pay attention to minute details. I became mindful in the process.

“Life does not come with a manual, it comes with a mother.”

I also realized that I should live my life in such a way that my life is a message to my child. An ounce of practice is worth tons of preaching. It is my responsibility to give my child a beautiful childhood that he will always cherish.  Motherhood is a lovely phase in a woman’s life. Every moment with your child should be joyfully lived. Let it not be a transactional relationship. When they grow up, the same child whom you nourished with love and care, may one day question your sincerity or even get ego involved with you and will be ready to argue with you.  Just quietly leave the place. Your silence will speak louder than your words. Your maturity and goodwill should always prevail. Only then can you build a bond with your child, which began with the first heart beat in your womb. 

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