MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL…

 

“A beautiful face will age

And a perfect body will change,

But a beautiful soul

Will always be a beautiful soul”

Imprisoned in a mindset that only beautiful people appeal to everyone, and being an ugly duckling is a curse, I grew up, not enjoying being amidst family friends and  relatives, for the obvious reason, that my sisters and cousins, who were good looking, would always receive attention from all. I also did not take any effort to dress up well, knowing that it would make no difference.

As I grew in maturity, I realized the importance of dressing up well and being presentable, no matter how my nose was or how my eyes were. It was my responsibility to take care of my dressing. Once in college, I began to give importance to all of these and was definitely presentable.

My confidence level, which was very low, because of how I felt about my looks, started to go up, when I paid attention to the way I dressed. Slowly I realized that I should not define myself by my looks, which was a fading phenomenon. That beauty is only skin deep, and I should not be affected so much by that. Rather I should start working on my inner beauty.

“Outer beauty attracts,

But inner beauty captivates”

When you get one aspect of your life right, it aids in building your confidence in other aspects as well. Till that point, I never liked myself. Without loving yourself first, you cannot love the world. This shift in perspective taught me self-love. In turn, it taught me to love the world. Somebody who was shy and reticent to interact with strangers, started brimming with confidence. I started believing in myself. Life introduced me to me. A person, I never knew before, existed within me, came to life.

The little girl with a low self-esteem became a confident woman. Today, who I am bears no semblance to my past. Many of them will not even believe if I narrated my story. I have come a long way.

With a spiritual intervention in my life, everything fell in place. It helped me to integrate the larger good with individual good. I am constantly striving to feel more beautiful by working on my inner beauty. I am at peace with myself. I am experiencing happiness and harmony in life. Even as a reflex action, I don’t react. This is a state you grow into, when you become the subject of your study.

Reflection and introspection help you to improve upon yourself. Meditation and consistent practice of positive thoughts, feelings and actions, over a period of time, helps you to change your very DNA. You don’t suffer from any complexes. The judgement of the world doesn’t affect you, for, you know who you are. You don’t wait to receive a certificate or an acknowledgement from the world. You experience joy in giving, without expecting anything in return.

The greatest gift you can give yourself is to reach a stage where, your own limitations affect you, your inadequacies bother you, your insincerity or lack of commitment jolts you, and you are never at peace when you are not right. That state is a striving in life. Aspire to reach a state where you live to look up to yourself. 

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