PROCESS EXCELLENCE

 

“The proof of the process is in the results

What we need isn’t explanations,

but excellence;

not reasons but Results.”

There was a loud applause when our students confidently concluded their speech.  The audience was awe-struck by their eloquence, and most importantly, the way they spoke without a stutter for twenty minutes each, on “The Fragile Adolescent Years.”   

There were many take-aways for the audience other than what was spoken about. The speakers would have set aside some time every day to practice the speech, they also would have had to complete their daily school assignments, prepared for their test and exams, in the midst of all this they would have rehearsed it so many times. The Principal of that school gave nothing short of a salute to the two motivational speakers.

When there is excellence in the process, we can expect appreciation and applause. Lack of preparation would have shown in their delivery. And they would have ended up with a mediocre performance.

This is true of every aspect of life and in every role that we play. Whether we are parenting our children or teaching in a school or heading a corporate or industry, excellence in results can be achieved only through excellence in process.

Parenting is a learnt trait. There has to be consistent effort in grooming the children. Very often I see them being neglected. Sometimes parents don’t even realize how they should talk or behave, not only in front of their children, but even otherwise. For the sake of our children, we should get our actions right. We have the responsibility to mould them the right way. It doesn’t happen automatically. It takes years of right action.

A lot of effort goes into the making of an extraordinary personality. There was always a father, a mother or a grandparent in the life of those who are revered today for their noble qualities, in spite of their achievements.  Be it an Abdul Kalam or a Ratan Tata, the story is the same. Somebody within the family inspired and guided them.

A good human-being, who is also a successful individual, is the result of good parenting. It is not by default. For that matter, nothing is.

I have seen the by-product of good parenting as well, and I always think that they are blessed to have such a good upbringing. Many of these children are “Owner’s pride and neighbours’ envy.”  They will have a trouble-free life to a great extent, with the right attitude, values  and outlook in life, which will help them to make the right choices.

 Anyone dealing with children, be it parents or teachers, should get their algorithm right. We need to debug our methodology or strategy. What worked for one child may not work for another. But what is important is, are they getting our attention.

There is so much that needs to be done to get their thinking right. All the challenges we face in relationships is because of wrong upbringing or negative peer influence. One person’s attitude affects the happiness of many around, who are connected.

An ill-tempered person, a bully, a gossip- monger, a cheat, a sadist, a lazy bone, a liar, a drug addict, an alcoholic, an arrogant, manipulative, disrespectful person, are all sometimes the outcome of sheer negligence in childhood.

 Just as how a huge jig-saw puzzle can be solved only by placing every single piece in the right place, every action that we take, contributes to the holistic growth of the child. The contrary is also true.

 As parents, we should never lose sight of our end objective. The means to an end is as important as the end itself. Inculcate desirable qualities in children, so that they are a blessing to this world. This is every parent’s responsibility. See  parenting as a celebration. Aspire to make your creation a marvel!

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