LOVE OR EGO

 

The mother sank into the sofa with a heavy heart, tears blinding her eyes. She just could not believe her ears. In one sentence he had nullified all that she had done for him over the years. She was bleeding within. Her deep love for her son was very casually dismissed by him. More than the pain she went through to bring him up, his mockery and sarcasm pierced her heart like a dagger, and the pain was unbearable. The depth of a mother’s love was not understood.  Ego showed its ugly head and caused unbearable agony to the woman, who refused to see life beyond her son.

 

Ego sometimes comes like a hurricane and displaces all the goodness within us. We temporarily forget who we are and the worst in us dances in front of our own eyes, with barely any control. When we come out of it, we sometimes regret our actions. Ego controls us in certain moments. Should we not be in control of our thoughts and actions? When ego comes everything else goes. When the ego within wins, we as a person, lose.

 

Adolescent children are sometimes a huge challenge to the parents. The struggle to maintain a cordial relationship has been an ongoing one, generation after generation. What is the formula that works? Nobody knows, because there isn’t one solution for this. For each his own.  But one thing is very clear, when there are hormonal changes in children, they get ego involved with parents. It is not intentional though. It is sometimes beyond them. There is so much of resentment in the relationship. Can we just hold on?  Not reacting would be the best response. Just bathe them in your love.

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“To love and to be loved is the most purifying of all human experiences.” When love is such a positive and powerful emotion that all of us could experience, why would we choose anything that would take away that love from a beautiful relationship? Ego always seeks to divide and separate. Only love unites. Annihilation of ego gives birth to love. Ego can sabotage the most beautiful relationship. Love is the only way a relationship can be maintained. To fill our heart with love, or to fill our mind with ego, is a choice we have to execute. 

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LOVE VERSUS INFATUATION

                                        

The girl was standing in the Principal’s room, a little nervous, fidgeting with her hands, knowing fully well why she was summoned. Her mind was racing like a jet, planning what to tell, if questioned about her actions. For her, this was the first experience, but, for the Principal, this has been a part of her profession over the years.  Fortunately for the student, she was studying in a school that did not believe in either branding students, or labeling them. The Principal gently waived her hand, asking her to sit. She was asked to explain herself. The girl reluctantly told her what had happened. She nervously waited for the Principal’s reaction. After listening to her fully, the Principal, with the warmth of a mother in her voice, told her that, what she felt for her classmate was just infatuation. It was part of her growing up phase, to feel the rush of adrenaline while interacting with the opposite sex. Many of us go through this.

 Infatuation has no reasoning. It is just a physical attraction and nothing more. There is no depth in the relationship and fades away soon, unlike love, which grows over the years, and withstands the test of time. She said that she should not get drawn into it. The girl did not look convinced. She had a look that conveyed her conviction in her decision. The Principal continued. She said, teenage was the most crucial period in one’s life. Either it can create you or destroy you, depending on the direction of your life. A boy will feel like a man and a girl will feel like a woman, because of the physical changes, but you are not man enough or woman enough. But you think you are old enough. At this age you don’t have the maturity to make life defining decisions. So long as you are dependent on your parents for your needs, you must understand that you are not old enough.

Your choices will keep changing over the years, as you go from school to college, to work place. What you feel now may not be the same after a few years. Whereas, in love, the feeling grows more intense with the passage of time. So, you should not get carried away by your emotions during your adolescent years. You should rather distract yourself by being busy in a sport or a hobby. She concluded by saying, “Everything has a time and season my child. Let go of your past. A glorious future is awaiting you!” 

 

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TRANSCENDENCE IS GROWTH

 

Mother nature is not benevolent to the seed at the time of germination. The seed has to push itself against the earth for the kernel to break open.  Then the very soil that acted against the seed starts working in its favor. It appears that life is not in our favor whenever we face challenges. But we need to understand that life is only preparing us for the journey ahead. From being a diffident child to a confident adult, from immaturity to maturity, from intolerance to acceptance, from mediocrity to excellence, from randomness to order, from indiscipline to discipline, every evolution needs a give up.

Experientially  I understood that I need to be tough on myself for life to be easy on me. From here to there, is easier said than done. Life was very mediocre till I decided to change. I realized that I cannot remain where I am and hope to make it BIG in life. I need to TRANSCEND my limitations. One  habit at a time, I worked on myself.  Our end goal in life has to be our focus. Be it my new-found confidence, my maturity, the high level of acceptance that I had achieved, the strong faith that I had developed, my surrender, everything was validated. Life will present you with situations that will validate your growth, and I was not an exception. Once you transcend, it is sheer liberation.  Nothing can pull you down. It is like how the rocket propels itself and goes beyond the pull of gravity and enjoys the freedom of space.

The lesser being in you is left behind, the moment your higher self takes over all your actions. Then there will be no regret in life. You begin to rejoice the NEW YOU. If we realize that we are only a decision away from leading a glorious life, we will embark on this journey of transcendence. We need to take one step at a time. Initially your mind will play games with you. Do not relent. Keep working on yourself. The caterpillar has to struggle to come out of the cocoon, the foetus has to push itself out of the womb to enjoy the freedom of a new life. We need self-discipline to attain our full potential. Reinventing ourselves constantly is the process of evolution. The bounties of life are always beyond the imaginary finishing line!

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ILLNESS OR WELLNESS

 

The birds were chirping and the sky had begun to blush, as the morning sun was just beginning to appear. The trees around the house stood still, eagerly awaiting to bathe in the first rays of the sun. The house was silent as all were fast asleep. As I rolled my yoga mat and gently wiped the beads of sweat from my forehead, feeling absolutely refreshed and rejuvenated, youthful and vibrant, I could not help thinking about my journey, from where to where, I had travelled in life. Though I was very active in my childhood, playing all kinds of games with my sisters and neighborhood friends, climbing trees, cycling around on the streets for hours, yet, as I grew into an adult, everything took a backseat. I was busy meeting up with friends and socializing, that there was no other physical activity. In course of time I realized that I had inherited the family genes, as I became diabetic. That’s when I realized that health is wealth. That’s how exercise became a part of my daily routine.

For the past seventeen years I have been consistently trying to control my diabetes through my food and daily exercise. I choose exercise over sleep. I no more eat tongue conscious food, but health conscious food. Exercise, meditation and right food are never compromised in my daily routine. The termite works slowly, unnoticed, inside the wall. We take notice of it only when it weakens the structure or after much damage has been done. Similar is the case when it comes to our health. We do not value our health when everything is going fine. Only when our health deteriorates, we begin to take notice. Sometimes it becomes too late Our body needs to be cared, it needs to be maintained.

There is so much to lose when we lose our health. We lose the quality of our life.  Many of us do not take our health seriously. Good health is the best gift we can give ourselves. What freedom it is to move around without even feeling the body! We cannot cure the disease after its onset, we can only maintain our body. If you are gifted with a healthy body, preserve it by taking care of it. Introduce your child to the right lifestyle from childhood, as everything is a matter of habit, including exercise and the food we eat. Habits either create you or destroy you. The life we live is purely our choice. What do you seek, Illness or wellness?

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